07|01|2009
apricot’s closet: barefoot & breezy.
tank-top & lacy undergarment are from Forever21; ripped jeans are from Xi; skull necklace is my own creation (which will be in the shop soon!)
This is about as comfortable as it gets for me (aside from this). There is nothing like a pair of ripped jeans — which aids in the better movement of your knees, if you didn’t know — & a loose tank-top to fend off those icky summer days. The less frills & accessories the better, I think. During the late afternoon, though, I switched to shorts.
On another note: I feel like I’ve been a bad blogger. Sure, I have touched on some sticky issues, but I never talk about what’s going on in my life RIGHT NOW. I’m not so good at that, as I am with reminiscing, story-telling, & being blatantly honest about things that happened in the past. I commend other bloggers who can so easily touch on sticky situations they’re experiencing in their lives right that moment. I can’t do it.
A lot of things have been going on in my life lately; personal things. The biggest thing that I have yet to elaborate on is my husband quitting his day job to be a full-time blogger & life coach. (I experience heart palpitations just saying that.) Eventually, when I can find the right words (& an opinion on the matter, because truthfully, I just don’t KNOW how I feel about it yet) I want to be able to talk about it. For now, though, it’s been steeping in my brain as I’ve been trying to make some sense of it.
Any tips on how to be a better “in the now” writer?
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juicy new topics on ask apricot:
- “I’ve got a huge crush on my married (with kids) physical therapist…”
- “I want to do something romantic for my 5 year anniversary…”
- “should I let him go for good?”
- “I need an eyeshadow that will last through the heat of summer…”
- “what should I wear with my black harem pants?”
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:10 am:
i don’t think it’s necessary to talk about the present! but maybe you could start brainstorming in a journal. it may or may not make its way to the blog :)
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:24 am:
your skin looks amazing!
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:24 am:
I find it very hard to talk about real personal things in my blog, I tend to rather convey them in a different way, kind of cloaking away the most important facts. Most of my entries are inspired by somethng going on in my life, but I never actally talk about it´. I don’t think there’s anything bad about it and I don’t think it makes me (or you) a bad blogger. :)
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:40 am:
super cute!!!
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:43 am:
It’s not necessary to talk about the current things. Commenting on past events is good because you gain perspective.
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:45 am:
You look so radiant here….i like the simple, laid back look…..how to do you keep your hair and skin so gorgeous looking?
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:50 am:
I really admire your sense of style!
I say (in the voice of all authority) blog about what feels right to you at the time. If you don’t want to delve into the present and the past seems right – do it!
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:52 am:
he probably felt the same way when you quit your job…:-/
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:58 am:
@ Lisa: I use St. Ives products for my skin. I love the apricot scrub, so I use that twice a week in conjunction with their olive oil cleanser daily. I also drink a lot of water. :]
For my hair, I actually put vitamin e oil on it daily, which keeps it shiny & healthy. Not too much, though, because it’s really strong & concentrated. But I love it.
@ nancy: Actually, no, he didn’t. He was more relieved than anything else. :]
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 11:09 am:
You just have to find your “here and now” voice. Pretend like you’re sitting at a gravesite and you’re telling your never met before grandma all the things that have gone on and are going on. You may leave out some things because not everything is meant to be shared.
Also, gauge by deciding what you share whether it will help someone else. Ultimately, that’s why I blog. I can be silly as heck but hopefully, I have accomplished something by helping someone with one word or two or even a laugh for the day.
I love how long your hair is getting. I think it’s time to visit me….I need a hair cut….bad!!!
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 11:26 am:
I don’t think you are able to write about things in the ‘now’ as well as things in the past because you don’t have the perspective you do with the latter. So don’t worry about it. The last paragraph is just fine for now.
Re: your husband, I think that I would be terrified and worried about it not working out while trying to be supportive and having faith in him and his venture. Worrying is unproductive, every time you feel worried use that time to look for a job. It will put all that time to productive use.
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 1:53 pm:
I get the not being able to talk about what’s going on right now, there are whole host of reasons that I don’t talk about the present on my blog – mainly because often it includes other people who aren’t so keen on having their life displayed candidly on a blog, and I’m not willing to upset people I care about purely for blog content, you know? Hope your present get’s better though, even if you can’t find the words . . .
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 3:50 pm:
just say what’s on ur mind..
My bf quit his job at the beginning of june and I’m not working… so I’m pretty freaked out because I’m dependent on him.. but we’re taking things little by little… I shared that on my blog on Sunday.
Every sunday, I write a love list on all that I’m thankful for in the week… So I use that time to reveal little bits about my life. This Sunday was a bit more personal because I spoke about having to call the debt agency because after 11 months of not working, I’ve ran out of money to pay my debts.
Also.. I post poems… which can be very personal. I posted one on Monday called Nothingness…. I’m struggling with depression and that was about that.
So.. U can do a weekly round-up like the Sunday Love List or post poems.
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 4:00 pm:
I’ve also had a hard time blogging about stuff that’s happening in my life right now…I’m guessing as time goes on, and I feel more and more comfortable with blogging I will be able to. I just can’t get my mind around sharing personal information with people I have never met. So for right now I’ll be keeping the “sticky situations” to myself.
My last post is probably as sticky as it gets, and that’s more of an annoyance than anything serious.
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 5:27 pm:
i think you are one of few people that could pool those jeans off. how do you do it??
anyways, talking about the “now” is a tricky one because sometimes the “now” hasn’t even completely finished or you yourself haven’t finished wrapping your head around it which makes it tricky to write about it. i usually try to write about things within a week of them happening.
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 6:26 pm:
You look soooo pretty here!
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 6:35 pm:
I find it’s hard to write without first having at least a little bit of hindsight on the matter at hand. Sure, when everything’s dandy, I’m the first person to blog about how beautiful life is and how in love I am with the world. But I’ve learned the hard way that an outpouring of what’s going on in my life isn’t always something I want to keep on my blog once things have smoothed over.
Case in point: My boyfriend and I were having some pretty serious issues in our relationship a couple of months ago, and I decided to write to some of my readers to get their perspective on what I should do. And while their advice was absolute gold, I have since taken that post down – not because I’m ashamed or embarrassed, but because I’m so far away from that headspace right now. I struggle with this issue with other subjects too – sometimes when I am anxious or depressed, I might write something and then be mortified by the content a few days later when I have regained my sanity. With moods like a freakin’ rollercoaster, I’ve learnt to wait a few weeks before sharing anything deep.
On the other hand, the feeling I get here at apricot tea is that (almost) nothing is off-limits, especially as you have written about sex, your husband’s overdose, your struggle with depression and the difficulties you sometimes have with your family (“The truth, my truth, hurts post). If your other readers are like me, we come here to drink up your thoughts on things we are too afraid to write about ourselves, in the comforting words that remind us we are not alone in our issues.
Read over some of your old posts, I think. Be brave. Remember how much your words help us, your readers. Maybe then you’ll be able to share with us whats going on with you right now.
You’ve inspired me to write a “whats happening now” post at curiousliving! :)
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 6:54 pm:
THIS OUTFIT IS ADOREABLE! I love it. Gah, you’re adoreable. I cannot even handle it.
As for blogging in the moment, I am still figuring that out myself. I wish you the best, and I know while you figure it out you won’t lose yoru faithful readers. :)
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 7:45 pm:
Looks like you did a fine job with what you said here. Being in the now doesn’t mean having a solution. Sharing that you don’t have an opinion on the matter yet is being very open and present in your situation.
Now I must find a lacy underthing. That one is cute!!
on Wednesday, July 1st, 2009 at 10:08 pm:
First of all, you look absolutely beautiful, as always.
Also, I just want you to know – if you don’t feel comfortable about writing about something, you don’t have to write about it. You don’t owe it to any of us to keep your readers up-to-date on everything, especially if you’re not ready to talk about it. Just know that, if and when you are, we’ll be here to listen.
on Thursday, July 2nd, 2009 at 6:54 am:
I’ll help supplement your income by paying you to be my personal stylist. SERIOUSLY, girlfriend. I love it.
on Thursday, July 2nd, 2009 at 8:42 am:
I used to bare all on my blog – if you go back to 2006, that’s all it was. But my blog slowly lost annonimity and now all the people I complain about read it lol. So I turned it into a fashion way. Sometimes though I do really want to rant though, regardless, and it’s tricky to work your way around that. I agree with the first commentor…perhaps a journal would suffice?
Either way, I love reading your blog L:)
on Thursday, July 2nd, 2009 at 12:26 pm:
You guys are so awesome.
I hope it works out for you. :)
I tend to do a bit of both – I think it’s sort of nice to look back and see where you were at certain points. I have terrible memory, so some of the current blogging is a nice reminder of what I was doing a year ago!
on Friday, July 3rd, 2009 at 2:35 am:
YOU ROCKIN’ GIRL!
PERFECT!
http://lainarollercoaster.blogspot.com
on Friday, July 3rd, 2009 at 5:33 am:
I loved reading your blog after my friend recommended it to me. You are not a bad blogger, after all, you’re focusing on fashion blogging. And I love your fashion style and your writing style too.
:)
I, for one started blogging about my personal life and issues that I face daily… after a long time of having a private blog. I’m quite new to baring myself to the whole world and I really admire bloggers who post about their personal lives. You can check my blog out if you have the time.
Looking forward to your next posts, and your next and your next…
:D
on Friday, July 3rd, 2009 at 6:44 am:
I love your looks, so cool! I want to slash up my black jeans but then I think about the winter and….. yea not so much =)
I think that for me, when I have something big going on if I don’t put at least a corner of it out there I find that I lose my ability to write. Over the past year the way I put things out there has changed though, instead of writing about every detail or about my relationships, or friendships I write about what those relationships, friendships and events make me think about and feel. In that way I’m writing about things that are relevant to me and pressing, and interesting to me, but I’m also drawing a line between what I put online and what I don’t.
Good luck finding your balance!
on Friday, July 3rd, 2009 at 9:51 am:
You look flawless all the time. Love you!
I think we all go through bad-blogging spurts. I’m definitely going through one. I think a lot of it comes from sitting down and writing it all out. Then you can go through and decide what parts you want to share. For me, that would take time, and that’s something I really don’t have. I don’t think anyone ever feels that they have the perfect balance in their blogging. And if they do, well they suck and I’m jealous.
on Friday, July 3rd, 2009 at 10:39 am:
hiiiii i’m back!!! :-P
your hair have grown, infact you’re so lovely!!!!
kiss
on Friday, July 3rd, 2009 at 2:34 pm:
You are incredibly gorgeous. easy, breezy, beautiful cover girl. haha. i’m a cornball. serioso though, I love your hair cut! My sister went short like this recently, but I don’t have the cahones or bone structure to pull it off. great blog!
on Saturday, July 18th, 2009 at 7:09 pm:
I love that top! I’ve been looking for a great loose tank, thanks for posting. It looks really cute/hot over that bra too. Nice taste :)